Coping Mechanisms

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Identifying The Correct Entity To Blame For A Societal Problem: The Epidemic Of Violence In America

The Individual Is The Weapon, And Their Instrument Of Choice To Harm Is The Method

We have to place things in their proper order in solving this disturbing issue. That begins by recognizing some members of society:

– Came from home environments which lacked guidance, supervision, and love;

– Lack strong emotional regulation, for whatever reason (i.e., learned behavior, genetic, congenital impairment, abuse);

– Are conformists to earlier deadly instances that have occurred;

– Have learned from home environment, or peers, that conflict (real, or imagined) involves picking up a tool (whatever that may be) with the intent to harm someone in resolving conflict;

– Embrace negativity and sounds that enter their minds on a daily basis (media influences);

– Lack healthy coping mechanisms;

– Are selfish (dangerously!), with a sense of entitlement;

– Already have a need to let their personal difficulties spill out into the public arena, and care less who gets physically damaged as a result;

– Possess out-of-control anger and hostility, and

– Lacked positive role models in their developmental years.

Are these all of the variables? No, but they’re a good start.

If America wants to find solutions in combatting violence in society, it begins with identifying the actual source of the problem, instead of working backwards.

Vikki

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Having Strong Coping Mechanisms, What Came Before

In certain instances, it is not so much what young people are told in their home environment growing up, but what they observed in that environment:  Learned behavior.  By watching the grownups deal with the busyness of complicated life situations in a calm manner, repeatedly, those young people are able to emulate those skills later in their own lives.  Those healthy skills are turned on automatically.

Strong coping mechanisms are important for a healthier mental existence.

Vikki

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Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)

In the following videos, Dr. Sonya Bruner discussed the differences between post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and complex post traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), how the latter can be misdiagnosed for a separate mental health issue, symptoms associated with C-PTSD, and other important characteristics involving therapy for C-PTSD (BetterHelp, 2018):

[VIDEO:  What Is C-PTSD? (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)]

 

[VIDEO:  C- PTSD Explained – Common Traits, Triggers & Treatment Options | BetterHelp]

 

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References

 

BetterHelp. (2018). What Is C- PTSD? (Complex Post Traumatic  Stress Disorder).

 

BetterHelp. (2018). C- PTSD Explained – Common Traits, Triggers & Treatment Options.

 

 

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The Noise in Life and How We Can Protect Our Mental Health

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Toddlers screaming with joy when playing with parents and grandparents.  Listening to music from our favorite CDs, and audiobooks from popular writers.  Hearing from relatives and friends about confirmation at university, employment opportunities. Cascading water fountains in backyards.  The cheers from attendees at wedding ceremonies.  These sounds and others like them are a delight. Unfortunately, there exist sounds in the universe which are unsettling, and if we’re not careful nurture in us an unstable mental health.  Noise.

Figuratively speaking, the noise comes from newspapers, and literally from the evening news on television and radio.  To expand further through these mentioned platforms, some members of the following entities generate the most disturbances:  Public officials–Celebrities–The famous for being famous–Average citizens. None of us can escape because it’s everywhere.  As soon as we turn our backs there’s additional noise disturbing the peace of our lives, rupturing the fabric of the universe.  It can leave us in disbelief, produce a quiet anger, and sometimes the noise is tragic.  How do we protect ourselves?

There are particular areas in life which we can’t control, to be sure. However, those areas which we can influence provides the means for building up a stronger infrastructure. In the process, it allows us to have more meaningful lives.

Volunteerism

  • Nursing homes
  • Veterans’ Hospitals
  • General Hospitals

Bringing fruits and other treats for the patients.  Their lives will become enhanced instantly because visits enable them to overlook ailments for awhile, and possibly loneliness.

Mentoring

  • Big Brothers-Big Sisters Organization
  • Girl Scouts
  • Boy Scouts

Children never forget the one individual who made a positive difference in their lives.

Assisting Veterans Retired medical staff members can bring disabled Veterans into their homes to live.  It could be one of the greatest compliments the Veterans ever received for military service. Household members can learn from each other.

Creating/Joining Causes We’re Passionate About

  • Child Protection Services
  • Sports Programs for Children (when school districts are financially unable)
  • Philanthropic Organizations
  • Military Groups (sending care packages:  non-perishable foods, cell phones with batteries, computers, personal hygiene items, cards and letters, etc.)
  • Habitat for the Humanities (many couples with children will appreciate)
  • Animal Rescue Agencies

That noise.  Well, it’s not going anywhere.  But when we live more purposeful lives, by pouring the cement for a sturdier universe, we also create the foundation for maintaining a positive mental health.

Vikki