Stress Management Approaches

Everyone experiences stress from time to time, and will need to discover and practice effective stress management approaches for a healthy psychological condition.

As an aside, stress can lead to depression, and the longer depression lasts the better the opportunity for neurotransmitters becoming damaged, requiring an individual to obtain psychotropics from a mental health professional.

The following resources provide beneficial information in reducing/managing stress:



Mayo Clinic: Healthy Lifestyle – Stress Management – Stress Basics Albrecht’s Four Types of Stress – Managing Common Pressures



Stress Management Techniques


Relaxation Video for Stress Management




To Those Who Experience Abuse – A Spiritual Message of Encouragement

This blog has discussed many forms of abuse during the month of February.  Whether someone is currently in an abusive situation, or was able to escape one, GOD (CHRIST) witnessed all of it, and will sort things out on behalf of the abused.

GOD is everywhere, sees everything, and everyone.  Rest assured, GOD disciplines disobedience.  The day will come when HE confronts the abuser.  The latter will have to answer the former.  There are always spiritual ramifications set into place towards people with heinous behaviors.  The abuser won’t escape.  GOD is loving and has the final word on everything.

It’s important for the abused to understand another factor:  It’s one thing to be a victim of abuse, quite another to play the victim.  The latter discourages the ability to recognize positive opportunities when they knock.  If therapy is required, continue on that road.  Lead a life filled with purpose.  Don’t allow abuse to hinder the future.  Don’t allow any of it to define personhood.

May the rest of life’s journey be filled with absolute goodness and calm.


Delicate Subject Series – Pearls of Wisdom

Many artists, before they became famous, experienced issues similar to those within the general population.  An example is Country Music singer and lyricist Hunter Hayes being a target of bullying when he was younger.

His song Invisible could become an anthem for those suffering.

Hunter Hayes Reveals His Bullying Past

Hunter Hayes – Invisible (OFFICIAL LYRIC VIDEO)


Those Relatives

It would be comforting if we could say that we liked each family member. Unfortunately, there are always a few with unpleasant personalities.  Some could be duplicitous, monopolize conversations, insensitive, always looking for an argument, ruining family gatherings and other activities. How do we handle situations?

On the surface it would appear juvenile to ask the organizer of an event if a particular relative was attending to avoid them.  We may even behave covertly: Who’s invited? However, we have to discern if the event is worth bypassing to avoid unpleasantness, or a celebration for a relative we love dearly which allows us to overlook potential difficulties.

We also have to ask ourselves what role we play within the family structure.  Examples are:

Peacemaker.  Understands each personality among family members and works behind the scenes, speaking with troublesome relatives, warning them to be on their best behavior. They’re unafraid to rein them in, if necessary.

Lifeguard.  Saving members when a relative gets beside themselves: You attended the museum recently. Tell me all about it about it (as they escort the offended party out of the room).

Distraction Expert.  Prevents a negative conversation from brewing: I found the most amazing sales!  I’ll show you on the Internet. 

Comic.  Reduces tension in the air, disarming unkind relatives in their tracks.

These members can work in concert to prevent situations from getting out of hand.


We can’t avoid difficult relatives forever.  Being around them gives us practice for self-government, emotional maturation, and emotional intelligence when dealing with challenging personalities in general.  However, if certain family members are way too extreme in the problems they cause, the best solutions are excluding them from family gatherings, not seeking them out independently hoping they’ve finally modified behaviors, and ignoring potential fallout.



A dialogue on mental health can be addressed from numerous perspectives.  We should always indicate that we feel badly for individuals experiencing psychological difficulties. But we’re not expressing ourselves totally if we fail to acknowledge how some of those behaviors affect others. This post is meant to rectify that omission.

Psychology is everywhere and especially in the workplace. After spending so many hours together on a weekly basis, it’s difficult not to observe the varied behaviors. Positive attitudes are a must for every level of an organization.  And there’s never enough of them. Unfortunately, there are workers with negative mental default buttons. If we’re completely honest, they take air out of a room.  Those behaviors leave us shaking our heads in disbelief, wincing with pain, and with nerves worn out.  Some of the issues we may observe are:

  • Anger Management Difficulties
  • ASPD (First Level)
  • Toxic Complainers
  • Mercurial (not BPD)
  • Nosey-Parkers (this isn’t a mental health issue, per se, but it’s troublesome behavior)
  • Rigid Thinkers (unbeknownst to them, they’re setting themselves up for anxiety disorders)

And we can’t leave out NPD.  Each one of us have known, or knows, individuals with this condition.  Which brings us to someone we’ll refer to as Sebastian to protect his identity. He was a new peer.  Twenty-six years old, Vice President, brainy and demonstrated his proficiencies. All of us liked him, until he shot himself in the foot. And kept shooting. The following is a series of events.

  • Periodically throughout the year, meetings were held for new hires.  Each was introduced and spoke briefly about work experiences and personal interests. Sebastian indicated he was champing at the bits to bring value to the firm, addressed skills, and how much he couldn’t wait to work with everyone. Then, he made derogatory comments about his former company.
  • “How’s everyone doing?”  There was none of that.  He didn’t believe in greeting people at work, not even the boss.  “Let’s go to lunch and discuss the new project.” It didn’t happen. “I play golf on the weekends.  Come.” He never said it.  Sebastian wasn’t interested in getting along with anyone at work.  He lacked people skills.
  • The organization provided on-site Professional Development every quarter.  He was in one of the sessions a few weeks after his arrival.  All of us were excited about the program as we filled into the training facility.  That excitement quickly dissipated, however. Sebastian interrupted the trainer repeatedly, gave his thoughts and experience, corrected the instructor, with the rest of us interrupting him to be quiet.
  • None of us knew what exactly occurred.  There was a heated conversation in the hallway between Sebastian and the Human Resource Director, with the latter advising the former, Cool it! The Director had a laid-back personality, and we hadn’t ever seen his feathers ruffled until this incident.
  • There was nothing inappropriate about Sebastian having time off for external professional development. Others were granted similar permission.  It was his bragging as though he had a sense of entitlement which was inappropriate.


Sebastian reminds me of a classmate in grade school.  He couldn’t govern himself an hour before he was sent down to the principal’s office.

A lighter touch, fragrance of humor, modifying the ego, all could have assisted him greatly before he completed his first employment application.

Did he see it coming that Friday morning when he was introduced to his replacement?


Apologists and Skewed Priorities

It’s stunning the many apologists there are for juveniles with the most deplorable behaviors imaginable. They would have us to believe dangerous adolescents are upstanding citizens who deserve a slap on the back for a job well done.  In reality, they’re Poster Children for Bad Behavior, with a high percentage beyond rehabilitation.  The apologist community needs to re-configure its thinking: Give accolades to juveniles who’ve earned them.

They have admirable behaviors, strong emotional maturation and intelligence, healthy study skills to excel in academia, enthusiasm about the future, intellectual curiosity, and pleasant dispositions.  They’re good people!  Any could become the next CEO we read about in business magazines. Regardless of goals, they have attractive standards.

It’s these youths who deserve praise. Not those who disturb the peace of our lives and if given the opportunity, wouldn’t have a second thought about murdering us.

Instead of disparaging voices of reason, and making excuses for negative behaviors, time would be best spent working alongside legislators in establishing alternative schools (and housing) for dangerous juveniles to keep them separated from the law-abiding public.

I look forward to your comments.