Emotional Regulation

I read these articles every so often about people engaging in verbal altercations in such dramatic form with others, which sometimes escalate to physical altercations.  A person has to wonder if these individuals ever thought a different course of action could have been used.

I don’t believe in pity parties, but I do believe in people spouting off to someone trustworthy.  It can be considered a form of psychotherapy outside of the doctor’s office.  What it doesn’t suggest is becoming loud and obnoxious.  It involves talking about what they’re going through–whatever that burden is before unfavorable situations occur.

Were those opportunities ever presented, or were allowed to?

Everyone becomes angry every once and again and has a right to that anger when it’s appropriate.  However, perhaps, they should ask themselves if, instead, they’re disappointed, annoyed, ticked off, or embracing learned helplessness which is far lower on the Richter scale of emotions.

And then ask themselves if “the becoming angry thing” is even necessary.  Important.

Where appropriate, these negative situations aren’t worth another word, or a fistfight.

The person with the ability to control unfavorable situations (within reason!), is the same person who can control their emotions.*

Each person adopting emotional regulation is necessary for a psychologically-healthy society.

Vikki

*Controlling situations is not synonymous with changing situations.